
Plot Summary:
Marmee and Meema have adopted three children from different cultures. Although they are a nontraditional family, they are a very happy family. They cook, dance, play, and laugh together. Their home is full of love. One of their neighbors does not accept them, and the children do not understand why. The mothers do everything they can to make their children happy... even wearing dresses for a mother-daughter tea. The family remains close even after all three children get married and start their own lives. After their mothers' death, Will moves into the house with his own family so there is still a place for all of the families to get together and carry on their traditions.
Critical Analysis (Including Cultural Markers):
The story opens with the introduction of each of the main characters. We learn when each of the adopted children joins the family, the careers of the parents, and their hobbies. The story is told by the oldest daughter, and she takes the reader on a walk down memory lane. The family cooks (even making homemade pasta), dances, slides down banisters, and laughs together. The entire family wears homemade costumes at Halloween. The only bad family event in the story is when all of the children come down with the flu at the same time.
The focus of this story is supposed to be on the children being raised by gay parents, but it also has a multicultural focus as well since all three of the children are of a different race and the neighborhood they live in is made up of many different ethnicities. The oldest child is African-American, the middle child is Asian-American, and the youngest child is Caucasian. At the neighborhood block party the “Mardicians brought stuffed grape leaves and ground lamb,” the Polos brought “spanakopita and Greek salads,” the Abdullas brought “hummus and tabouli,” and the “Yamagakis brought sushi”.
Everyone in the neighborhood gets along extremely well with the exception of one neighbor, Mrs. Lockner. She is shown constantly glaring at the two moms, and she does not let her children play with their children who are about the same age. She slams the door on them at Halloween, pulls them away from the tree house building party, and doesn’t participate in the neighborhood block party. It is at the block party that she confronts the mothers’ and yells “I don’t appreciate what you two are!” at them. The children are confused by this to which Meema responds, “She is full of fear. She’s afraid of what she cannot understand: she doesn’t understand us.” All of the other neighbors rally around the family and show their support by hugging the mothers.
The story ends with pictures of each of the children and their spouses (they each married people of the opposite sex), their chosen careers, and pictures of the mothers’ being loving grandparents. Will returns to raise his family in the house he grew up in, and all of the children return to the house they grew up in.
Although this story had great potential to show a “normal” family with gay parents, I think it failed miserably. The family was just too perfect. From making the homemade pasta, sewing their own Halloween costumes, the moms’ trick-or-treating for Unicef, practically the entire neighborhood showing up for several weekends in a row to build a tree house, and the block party with games and food booths, it was just too much. The illustrations are also very stereotypical: the mothers are drawn with manly haircuts, and they are always wearing pants with big shirts and/or sweaters. The children have stereotypical hairstyles as well, not to mention their hairstyles stay the same throughout the entire story even though it shows them growing up into adulthood. I thought this really took away from what the story could have been. I am unsure if I would want this in my collection for these reasons.
Review Excerpt(s):
From School Library Journal
Grade 1–4—This gem of a book illustrates how love makes a family, even if it's not a traditional one. The narrator, a black girl, describes how her two Caucasian mothers, Marmee and Meema, adopted her, her Asian brother, and her red-headed sister. She tells about the wonderful times they have growing up in Berkeley, CA. With their large extended family and friends, they celebrate Halloween with homemade costumes, build a tree house, organize a neighborhood block party, and host a mother-daughter tea party. The narrator continually reinforces the affectionate feelings among her mothers and siblings, and the illustrations depict numerous scenes of smiling people having a grand time. Most of the neighbors are supportive, except for one woman who tells Marmee and Meema, "I don't appreciate what you two are." Eventually, the children grow up, marry heterosexual spouses, and return home to visit their aged parents with their own children. Is this an idealized vision of a how a gay couple can be accepted by their family and community? Absolutely. But the story serves as a model of inclusiveness for children who have same-sex parents, as well as for children who may have questions about a "different" family in their neighborhood. A lovely book that can help youngsters better understand their world.—Martha Simpson, Stratford Library Association, CT
From Booklist
The oldest of three adopted children recalls her childhood with mothers Marmee and Meema, as they raised their African American daughter, Asian American son, and Caucasian daughter in a lively, supportive neighborhood. Filled with recollections of family holidays, rituals, and special moments, each memory reveals loving insight. At a school mother-daughter tea, for instance, the mothers make their first ever appearance in dresses. The narrator recalls, “My heart still skips a beat when I think of the two of them trying so hard to please us.” Only a crabby neighbor keeps her children away from their family. Meema explains, “She’s afraid of what she cannot understand: she doesn’t understand us.” The energetic illustrations in pencil and marker, though perhaps not as well-rendered as in some previous works, teem with family activities and neighborhood festivity. Quieter moments radiate the love the mothers feel for their children and for each other. Similar in spirit to the author’s Chicken Sunday, this portrait of a loving family celebrates differences, too. Pair this with Arnold Adoff’s Black Is Brown Is Tan (2002), Toyomi Igus’ Two Mrs. Gibsons (1996), or Natasha Wing’s Jalapeno Bagels (1996) for portraits of family diversity. Grades 1-4. --Linda Perkins
From Library Media Connection
The writing style is truly Polacco and the colorful illustrations are warm and loving. This is a strong and memorable story of a peaceful, devoted family unit.
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Discussion Questions and Activities:
*Compare/contrast your family with the family in the story.
*After the tree house was finished, "Marmee and Meema broke a bottle of soda over the doorjamb and named the tree house Thistle House." What is the history of breaking bottles over something new? Why is it done?
*Prepare gnocchi from scratch or bring in some pre-made gnocchi for students to taste.
*Meema and Marmee never respond to Mrs. Lockner when she is repeatedly rude to them and their family. Do you agree or disagree with how they handled her? Describe another way they could have handled her.
*Invent a game that you would want to play at the Woolsey Street block party.
*What kind of food would your family prepare for the food court?
Other Books by Patricia Polacco:
*Thank You, Mr. Falkner. ISBN 9780399237324
*My Rotten Redheaded Older Brother. ISBN 9780689820366
*The Keeping Quilt. ISBN 9780153052125
*Chicken Sunday. ISBN 9780698116153
*The Butterfly. ISBN 9780142413067